Of course, Scripture doesn't teach that we can do what we want as long as we have good intentions. As with Hanukkah, there are no passages of Scripture telling us to celebrate Christmas, or
even the Messiah's birth. Most of us have heard of the paganism involved in this holiday, so I don't want to take the time to extrapolate the pagan connections to Christmas, but I would recommend this video if you are interested in learning more.
I stopped celebrating Christmas and I know that most people don't get that, especially at this time of year. It's not a subject that most people are willing to talk about. I get that because I used to get defensive about it as well. I thought I would address here some of the questions I've gotten over the years about deciding to no longer celebrate Christmas. Sometimes it's easier to learn when you're alone with an article than when you're confronted by a person you disagree with. :)
I stopped celebrating Christmas and I know that most people don't get that, especially at this time of year. It's not a subject that most people are willing to talk about. I get that because I used to get defensive about it as well. I thought I would address here some of the questions I've gotten over the years about deciding to no longer celebrate Christmas. Sometimes it's easier to learn when you're alone with an article than when you're confronted by a person you disagree with. :)
Why
did you decide to quit Christmas? It started with a
prayer, "Take away things in my life that don't honor you." This was
at a point where we had already made some changes in our faith practice, like
observing Shabbat. Soon after this prayer lots of things about the origins of
Christmas came up, and we also heard of many others who stopped celebrating after a closer look at the origins of this day. We knew
that YHWH was speaking to us.
A big eye opener for me was realizing that most
of the world, religious or not, believers in Messiah or not, celebrates
Christmas. If other cultures and religions have no problem with joining in with
our holidays, how 'faith based' can they be? Because outside western
culture most people can see Christmas for what it really is, and that's not a
celebration of the Messiah.
Was
it hard to stop celebrating Christmas? Very! We didn't
choose to walk away because we didn't enjoy it nor value it. It
felt like something was missing when we didn't put stockings up or bake
Christmas cookies, but we knew we wanted to follow YHWH. The first year or two
is like working to lift a very heavy weight from your chest, definitely a
difficult process and not fun at the time, but afterwards you feel so much
better. Each year gets easier.
But
I love Christmas! Yeah, I did too. The songs. Family
gathering. Giving presents. Stockings. The classic stories. Favorite Christmas
movies. Manger scenes. Me loving something doesn't equal YHWH's approval
though.
But
isn't Christmas in the Bible? Actually, many
elements of traditional Christmas celebrations get a mention in Scripture, only
in a very negative, don't-do-this sort of way. For instance Jeremiah 10
expressly tells us not to learn the ways of those who cut down trees and then
deck them with silver and gold. The word Christmas, like Easter, does not
appear in Scripture.
What
about the 'Christmas' story? The Luke 2 story - angels appearing to Mary and Joseph, the shepherds in the field, Mary giving birth to
Yahusha in a sukkah with animals - is absolutely a precious part of Scripture.
It's unfortunate that many elements of this have been totally misconstrued. The
wise men didn't arrive for a couple of years
after his birth. The shepherds didn't have their sheep grazing on winter's
snow. The date was certainly not December 25. And the name that the angel declared the Messiah would be called was not Jesus. And of course at the time of the Messiah's birth
no one in Bethlehem had a tree up in their home or told their children stories
of elves making toys on the North Pole.
Shouldn't
we celebrate our Savior's birth though? Should we be grateful
that Yahusha came to earth in the flesh to bring us correct understanding of
the Word and ultimately to die for our sins? Of course! May we always be. That
said, Scripture does not tell us we should and birthday celebrations aren't a
Hebrew idea. The two or three birthdays Scripture mentions (Pharaoh, King
Herod, possibly Job's son) all end in death. If you still find yourself wanting
to celebrate his birth the appropriate time to do that would be when Yahusha
was actually born, in the fall during Sukkot.
I
know the Messiah really wasn't born in December but this tradition is important
to me and I mean well. There is another story of a group
of people that feared and loved YHWH who decided to throw a festival in his
honor. Offerings were made. Time was spent making a beautiful decoration. They
feasted on food and drink. They laughed and played games. How did YHWH respond
to this? Was he appreciative? Did he say, "well it's the thought that
counts"? He was ready to kill them.
You can read about this incident in Exodus 32.
Can't
God redeem pagan things? Reading through Scripture this
doesn't seem to be his approach. He could have redeemed the golden calf (they
did mean it as a celebration to YHWH after all - Exodus 32:5), but didn't and
the people were punished. He could have used that temple of ba'al as a worship
center for himself but instead had it turned into a public toilet (2 Kings
10:27). He could have re-purposed some of those asherah poles but always ordered them to be smashed. He could have told us to accept our culture but he said, "Come out
of her and be clean."
What
about the kids? Yes, making changes can be disappointing for children. Changing holidays is tough for all ages. But it's far better that children grow
up learning truth and how to walk in YHWH's ways, than to be blinded by
cultural lies in the name of fun. Not celebrating Christmas doesn't mean you have to be miserable though. Replacing pagan holidays with the seven
festivals of YHWH can be tremendously joyful as you set apart his times. Plus, YHWH's feast days make up 19 days of the year, not to mention the weekly Shabbat. That's a lot more celebrating than the five or six days of cultural holidays.
Don't you miss celebrating it? My siblings both live out of state so I'm often nostalgic for days when my whole family is together, including at Christmas. There are a few Christmas songs that I really liked that I miss. Other than that, no. I don't find myself wishing my house was decked in red and green or anything like that.
Wait a minute, are you just trying to take Christ out of Christmas? Well, sort of. I think Christ should be removed from Christmas because, well, he doesn't have anything to do with it in the first place. I think it's sad and ironic one of the few causes Believers are willing to rally behind is this. Not the persecution of Believers in the Middle East, not the Ten Commandments being removed from public buildings, not the rights of students to be able to pray in schools, just that cups at Starbucks aren't plastered with the name of a holiday the Messiah didn't celebrate. I have yet to hear anyone who is upset about a "happy holidays" greeting complain that Starbucks doesn't go unleavened during Matzah Week or that no major retailer has a Shavuot section.
How do you feel when you
see Christmas stuff? Okay, so no one has actually asked me about this but maybe it's something people wonder about? When I walk into an office with a tree up or visit a friend's
fully decorated home or see manger scenes in the neighborhood my heart sighs. I
think, there is so much more for you.
What's
the best part of not keeping Christmas? My faith has grown so much by taking this tangible step to follow YHWH! It's nice to read through Scriptures like Jeremiah 10 and not make excuses for what I'm doing, and also to be able to relate to people like Ruth who left their culture to live YHWH's way.
Also, this sounds odd but seasonality has been something I've worked on lately. Things like eating the foods that are seasonally available, and adjusting sleep patterns with sunlight and so forth. And it always felt unnatural to me that during what is typically a cold and icy month we would travel so much, to stores and parties and so on. Having December as more of a low key time makes so much more sense to me. The lovely Spring and Fall weather of Passover and Sukkot is when I want to be out doing things. Does that make sense? It might not be something you can appreciate until you've been there.
What's
weird about Christmas now? So many things, but mostly the
Santa pictures I see on social media. Can we talk about how weird it is that
suddenly handing your baby off to a random stranger is acceptable? Doesn't it seem
unwise to teach your child it's okay to trust this man they don't know? Should
college girls really be sitting on the lap of some guy in costume? The really bizarre thing is that my not-so-religious friends don't seem to care much about this but the ones on staff at a church or who went to seminary or Bible college? They are hunting Santa down! I don't get that, okay?!
How do family and friends feel about you not celebrating? Some have taken it better than others. But usually it's a range from confused to offended. And for that, I am sorry. The last thing I want is to hurt feelings. This change doesn't impact that I love the people in my life. I get why they enjoy Christmas, because I did for so long too. I just feel like YHWH has called us to better things.
How do you handle Christmas parties? On one hand, I definitely get wanting to avoid all connection to and appearance of celebrating Christmas. On the other, it does seem in John 10 that Yahusha was at the temple during Hanukkah festivities. Of course, he was not throwing the party or leading the songs or making the donuts. He was teaching truth. So I think a lot of this decision depends on what you would be doing at the party. Wearing an ugly sweater, giving a secret Santa gift, and just participating in whatever the Christmas party is doing is very different from the family reunion type of events where you can share with a pro-life cousin what is so horrific about a yule log. Obviously you need to pray and ask YHWH for direction on this, but chances are you will be less busy than normal.
How
do you reconcile viewing Christmas as ungodly with good childhood memories of
it?
All I can say is that we did what we thought to be true at the time. 2 Peter 3:18 tells us that we should grow in the knowledge of Yahusha. Growth means changing. Just as a mature flower looks different than it did when it was a seedling, we can grow without resenting our past.
How about you? What kind of questions do you get asked? Is this something you're comfortable talking about?
How about you? What kind of questions do you get asked? Is this something you're comfortable talking about?
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Another beautifully worded piece. Thank you. I'm going to send this to my parents and my in-laws. Once they read it l, it should be easier to sit and discuss the why's. Thank you again
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Currently working on quitting Christmas. It's so hard. I really like your Q&A and it helps me think about how to go about this. Thank you
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this! This is our first Christmas not participating. We have thoroughly enjoyed and been blessed celebrating Passover, Shavuot and Sukkot!
ReplyDeleteThank you April! So excited to hear that you are loving YHWH's holidays. The first year of not doing Christmas is definitely the hardest. Praying that this transition time goes smoothly for you.
DeleteHow do you handle gifts? Do family members still give your children gifts? What about family members who might expect gifts from you?
ReplyDeleteI do not have any children so I haven't dealt with that particular issue yet. Typically I get one or two gifts from relatives and I just say thank you. I have shared how I've felt before and feel like I don't need to keep hitting everyone in the head with that.
DeleteWhen others expect gifts that can be tricky. I would just honestly tell them how you feel about Christmas and then suggest an alternative plan. Maybe you can give gifts at Passover time or in lieu of a Christmas gift you could suggest an activity together like going bowling or to see a play. Convey that walking away from Christmas doesn't mean you are rejecting them.
Hope that helps! I know that can be hard!
Beauitfully written! Its such a hard thing to do, its hard for us because of we live under a roof with my grandmother who refuses to not put up a tree. I am curious to what problem a prolifer would have with a Yule log. I know its some kind of pagan ritual that is supposed to be reuniting a god and goddess...but thats all I know.
ReplyDeleteThank you for writing about this. My mom was so upset when I told her I wasn't going to celebrate Christmas anymore and wouldn't listen. While all my unbelieving friends get it because the pagan history of Christmas is so well known. I have faced some very challenging moments becoming Torah obedient but quitting Christmas was the easiest for me.
ReplyDeleteThis is great! Thank you.
ReplyDeleteNot an easy transition, but so worth it! Thank you for putting in words.
ReplyDeleteDo you feel it's wrong to celebrate Hanukkah?
ReplyDeletePlease see this post for my thoughts on Hanukkah. :)
Deletehttps://landofhoneyblog.blogspot.com/2016/12/why-i-dont-celebrate-hanukkah.html
You handled all these questions very well and the article was very enlightening, although I have known of the pagan-ness of Christmas for quite a while. The only point I would make is that there WAS an angel (Gabriel) who told "Mary" (ESL translation) what she was to call her child. It was also told to "Joseph" what he was to name the child. There were angels involved in the story, but people seem to mistake what they actually did.
ReplyDeleteYes I agree that an angel did tell Mary the name, but that name was not Jesus. I can see how the wording in that sentence is a bit confusing, so I'll have to think about how to say that more clearly. :)
DeleteMy family and I have decided to quit Christmas as well, with 4 kids I know this isn't going to be an easy transition for them. However, we know it is for the best and it's good to know we are not alone in this journey!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this also. We have been in transition in separation ourselves from the holiday but believe 2021 will be the year we are finally fully separated. I never grew up celebrating feasts and holy days(even though I grew up in the church!), so I am excitedly preparing to weave those into our lives. I am so excited because I always seek a word from God over my coming year..this year I can't stop hearing Preparedness and Be ready...and now seriously seeking out celebration things like Passover , I'm like...wow it's all about preparedness. I feel the blessing of God on this decision truly.
ReplyDeleteI am from South Africa and I quit all pagan holidays. This year I celebrated most of the feasts and days appointed by YHWY. I visited my family on the 26th as my husband and I stayed where we live so that we don't celebrate this day. I was glad my mom did not put up a tree,but I saw that most of my family did not do as usual to gather on christmas this year.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing. Your story closely reflects our family's journey. Yah has so much better things in store for us! It was a little difficult at first, but now we experience so much freedom and joy!
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